Since my mom’s passing in September, our family has been faced with numerous holidays where the pain always feels a bit more intense. Ugh. But my dad, a peaceful and rational being, has taught us to make new family traditions. Our memories with my mom can stay in tact, but our present and future can look different. And there is no better way, in my opinion, to cope with pain and grief, than to give. Perspective is powerful and giving keeps your mind, heart, and hands busy.
I connected with a women’s shelter in New Haven, CT that currently houses 20 women and 36 children living with homelessness. We baked an abundance of treats and packed and delivered makeup bags and toiletries and full-sized items to celebrate and honor these moms.
We could not have done this without the overwhelming generosity of friends and acquaintances and complete strangers in our community. Thank you, thank you, thank you to all of you.
Not pictured: Bags and boxes packed with full-sized toiletries for the shelter to distribute as needed.
How did I get donations, you ask? Facebook and Instagram. A quick post or two explaining what we were hoping to accomplish and Poof! The flood gates were opened. The response was overwhelming and inspiring and humbling. If you want to give in some way and are looking for some support or want to include your community, ASK. It is absolutely worth it. And people are AMAZING.
When we delivered our donation, the children at the shelter were napping, so unfortunately, we weren’t able to spend any time with them. My kids were so disappointed, but they know there are a lot of unknowns with giving. As always, they had been a part of the entire process and we were all still able to be there together as a family.
This was the perspective that I needed on this Mother’s Day.
-Being able to put makeup on in the morning is a privilege
-Having transportation to get to the store is a privilege
-Having people in my life with the emotional space to celebrate me in motherhood or grieve with me is a privilege
-Having my kiddos is a privilege
-Having a beautiful network and community to generously donate to something I care about is a privilege
-Having a partner to share responsibility with is a privilege
-Having family is a privilege
-And Mamoun’s (for my NYCers) nearby is definitely a privilege 😜
And with that, my friends…we made it. Our first Mother’s Day without my mom. Fist bump to anyone who had a difficult Mother’s Day. We all survived!
Happy (or insert whatever adjective feels right) Mother’s Day to all. May you be celebrated every day.
Happy Giving! <3