Creating New Traditions: Mother's Day Edition

Our memories with my mom can stay in tact, but our present and future can look different.
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Since my mom’s passing in September, our family has been faced with numerous holidays where the pain always feels a bit more intense. Ugh. But my dad, a peaceful and rational being, has taught us to make new family traditions. Our memories with my mom can stay in tact, but our present and future can look different. And there is no better way, in my opinion, to cope with pain and grief, than to give. Perspective is powerful and giving keeps your mind, heart, and hands busy.

I connected with a women’s shelter in New Haven, CT that currently houses 20 women and 36 children living with homelessness. We baked an abundance of treats and packed and delivered makeup bags and toiletries and full-sized items to celebrate and honor these moms.

We supplemented the many donations with purchased makeup through financial support from friends.

We supplemented the many donations with purchased makeup through financial support from friends.

We could not have done this without the overwhelming generosity of friends and acquaintances and complete strangers in our community. Thank you, thank you, thank you to all of you.

Not pictured: Bags and boxes packed with full-sized toiletries for the shelter to distribute as needed.

Sweets and treats galore!

Sweets and treats galore!

How did I get donations, you ask? Facebook and Instagram. A quick post or two explaining what we were hoping to accomplish and Poof! The flood gates were opened. The response was overwhelming and inspiring and humbling. If you want to give in some way and are looking for some support or want to include your community, ASK. It is absolutely worth it. And people are AMAZING.

Luna and I went makeup shopping together. Her shopping game runs strong!

Luna and I went makeup shopping together. Her shopping game runs strong!

When we delivered our donation, the children at the shelter were napping, so unfortunately, we weren’t able to spend any time with them. My kids were so disappointed, but they know there are a lot of unknowns with giving. As always, they had been a part of the entire process and we were all still able to be there together as a family.

Milo, packing tote bags like the little superhero he is!

This was the perspective that I needed on this Mother’s Day.
-Being able to put makeup on in the morning is a privilege
-Having transportation to get to the store is a privilege
-Having people in my life with the emotional space to celebrate me in motherhood or grieve with me is a privilege
-Having my kiddos is a privilege
-Having a beautiful network and community to generously donate to something I care about is a privilege
-Having a partner to share responsibility with is a privilege
-Having family is a privilege
-And Mamoun’s (for my NYCers) nearby is definitely a privilege 😜


Soaked from the rain and being silly!

Soaked from the rain and being silly!

And with that, my friends…we made it. Our first Mother’s Day without my mom. Fist bump to anyone who had a difficult Mother’s Day. We all survived!

Happy (or insert whatever adjective feels right) Mother’s Day to all. May you be celebrated every day.

Happy Giving! <3

For My Children on Giving During this Season. And Always.

I hope that you learn through your lives that giving, in its purest form, feels good and is necessary and will change your life and worldview…that it does make a difference.

I hope that you take in the privileges with which you are being raised, right alongside the injustices that you and those around you may face.

I hope that you always think about how life circumstances make others feel, even if you have never been in their situations.

I hope that you shed tears for those who hurt and radiate joy for those who accomplish.

I hope that you offer a seat to the person on the subway who just looks so tired.

I hope that you put down your phones when you are crossing the street to help a struggling mom and her kids or an elderly person cross safely.

I hope that you pay for someone’s meal or purchase when you can, just because you are moved to do so.

I hope that you are the corporate volunteers who push to have a party for underresourced kids and take time away from work to participate. Or that you volunteer on the weekends and take action to improve something you feel needs it.

I hope that when you are able to, you will donate to the organizations who are working tirelessly to protect and to educate and to feed and to clothe and to provide.

I hope that you stand up for what you believe in and choose to act peacefully and with love.

I hope that you welcome neighbors and anyone who needs a place to go into your homes.

I hope that you always have perspective about what you have and how there is always someone who needs something that you can spare.

I hope that you always treat all people with kindness and respect and love and giving.

I hope.